25 signs you’re now a Lagosian

Moving (back) to Lagos can be an exhausting experience. the city bustles with life, energy and hunger, and its easy yo get overwhelmed by the never ending hustle. This is also one of the best things about Lagos though, and while i keep saying i hate it here, I appreciate how special it is here. Check out the list below, and see if there’s any similar experiences

1. Every rainy season feels like the longest one in history

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You’ve also become well educated about the effects of global warming

2. The words “Third mainland bridge” put fear into you

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Its 3 hours of your life you don’t ever get back.

3. You don’t consider Ghana to be international travel

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not when you know they all wish they were from Lagos

4. You can only stand Abuja people (AKA but we don’t have traffic) for about 10 minutes

Just stop talking.

Just stop talking.

And they smell a bit funny too

5. You’d give out your bank details before you share your favourite shawarma guy

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When you find a good thing, you keep it.

6. You’ve had a near death experience at Likwid Lounge

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Tear gas, flying bottles, stampedes. It’s basically turn up or die trying

7. It seems like every single one of your friends is getting married soon


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like every. single. one.

8. One of your friends is a pastors kid who probably does drugs

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They’re the absolute worst kids

9. You’ve found yourself arguing on the side of Bola Tinubu before

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And you’re at the Shoprite toll gate, you glance at the Oriental, pay your toll fee, and feel quietly ashamed

10. You’re never more than 2 degrees of seperation from Bayo of Orange couture

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You don’t know him, but all your cool friends do

11. You hate people that jog on the Lekki-Ikoyi bridge

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They’re all pretentious new-money farts..

12. One of your friends went to University of Buckingham

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And they always have the best stories about Nigerian Law school

13. You pay your taxes, but you have no idea how they’re computed

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The fear of LIRS is the beginning of wisdom

14. You’ve been jogging on the Lekki-Ikoyi bridge

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Because obviously you’re a pretentious new-money fart

15. You think the term “Swimming cars” is perfectly normal

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‘Fashola is working, Lagos is sinking’

16. In fact, you could probably write a ‘How-to’ manual on the subject. 

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Switch off AC, Curse Bola Tinubu, Drive really slowly and make sure no one splashes water on your car

17. You don’t have proof, but you know there are definitely zombies behind steering wheels

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And you almost died on No Horn day

18. You’ve fought a LASTMA officer before

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Because someone needs to.

19. You think Dj Sose is just a normal guy who happens to be at a lot of parties

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Face tattoos aren’t nearly the strangest things you see everyday

20. You would totally donate money to a charity called “Compensation for Ikorodu residents who work in Victoria Island”

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Because no one has to go through all that pain.

21. You’ve caught yourself complaining about how pretentious people are, or how you see the same people at the club

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22. But Friday night is still Turn up night. Standard.

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23. You discover more new music (and their dances) at weddings than on TV

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And what happens there stays there

24. You’ve done the ‘Lagos Jump’ at Afropolitan vibes

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Because Bantu is awesome

25. You sometimes fantasise about living a slow, green life in calabar or somewhere

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Lagos is too hectic all the time

26. But you know you’ll probably never leave. Lagos is home.

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Lau Lau Fiscal Policy

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The boom, not the slump, is the right time for austerity at the Treasury – John Maynard Keynes, 1937

Money is sweet to spend, especially when it’s other people’s money or it has ‘no owner’. A couple of months ago, I wrote about how Nigeria has been in Boom Time for the last 4 years with oil prices consistently above $100 per barrel since the current government came into office.

Given that Nigeria really has no say in the global oil markets – we cant really deliberately affect prices to our own benefit – the time was bound to come when the party music would stop. It appears that time has now come.

Here’s what the story of oil prices in the last 1 year looks like:

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It’s not yet a disaster of course; in theory it’s still above the price we based our budgets on this year ($79), assuming…

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A loony review of Asa’s “Bed of roses

Asa finally understands it.

She finally understands why she’s so incredibly important.

I should put a disclaimer here, and say that i am a huge fan of Asa’s music. Listen to me. Asa is a big deal.

In case you’ve been living under a rock, and don’t know who Asa is, she is a truly special, ‘world’ musician of Nigerian origin. Now get off my blog and get some education, cavemen.

She evokes sounds of old bamboo carvings, Yoruba goddesses, thatched huts, with a twist of New Orleans and the smell of pepper fruit sprinkled in for good measure.

I love Asa. I loved ‘Asa’, her self titled first album, when she announced herself to the world with the help of Cobhams and others, but I felt like her second was a bit sub-par (as subpar as her super quality would allow). It was a sound that I wasn’t used to on her first album, more Jailer than “bibanke”.

I love soulful, melancholic Asa. I’m not sure how I felt about sophomore, “You’ll be my man, and I will be your woman everyday” Asa. But ‘Bed of stones’ Asa, is incredible.

Asa has matured over the years. She’s married and raising a family in France, rightfully received world acclaim, and gracefully ascended the throne of ‘most respected young African artist performing today’. A lot of our Jollof rice artists don’t dare identify themselves with her, for fear that their stars might explode in close proximity to hers.

She deserves it. This album is a stellar effort. Every song is different, but quintessentially Asa. You can tell that these were the songs she wanted to sing, at the very moment she sang them, rather than a formulaic “I should do this type of song”. She delivers a masterful, controlled, confident album, and places it in your ears, with a wry smile and a “you’re very welcome”.

The album starts with the ballad “Dead again”. Asa lets you know she means to do what she wants and only that, when she basically chants/recites her way through the first verse. Somehow it works, and as the song picks up pace, you’re struck by the paranoia of the lyrics. “You picked up the knife, cut me in two, stabbed me in the back, left me for dead again… So it was you?” It’s a fantastic introduction.

The second song is called “Eyo”, a warm, folksy song that reminds me of 1:30pm on Sunday, in a village square, with people coming back from church. Little children running around with Ice lolly’s in their mouth, bottles of limca and Tandi guranda lying on the ground. I don’t know what Eyo means, but I got a warm, communal sentiment from it. That’s what Asa does. She takes you where she wants. The instrumentation was beautiful too. The bride has a piano arrangement that just tickles your brain. Lookout for it. Fantastic.

The third song is a strange one. It’s a southern boondock chant, with high top boots and lots of sand. It’s a folksy tune that revolves around the chants “Satan be gone, get on Satan be gone”. It reminds me of Florence and the machine, Alabama shakes, and The civil wars (maybe only because it sorta sounds like Barton hollow). I wasn’t sure about it the first time, but its absolutely one of the gems of this album.

Bed of stone is absolutely worth its place as the album title. Asa takes you into a story, describing each nostalgic detail of a young woman’s life. It’s a sad story of strength, victory, sacrifice and love for family. I think it’s an absolutely beautiful song.

Moving on is another such story. It’s a story of a woman who was probably violated when she was younger, and her journey in dealing with the things in her head. She resolves to keep moving on. The musical arrangement leads you everywhere she intends it to. This song is 4:17 long, Bed of stone is 4:20. These are the two longest songs on the album, and they certainly capture your attention.

Grateful is Asa just being Asa. She sings the verses in Yoruba, and although I don’t know what she’s saying, I can definitely get into the spirit of it. It’s a rhythmically perfect song that executes everything perfectly. Love it.

Society is magical. It’s the gem of the album for me; it’s subtle, perfectly executed and very good listening. It’s delivered on disciplined strums of the guitar, drums, violins and stellar accompanying vocals. Asa delivers scathing taunts at people I assume are politicians? She addresses them as “Mr Talku Talku”. “Winner today, Tomorrows loser. I wouldn’t want to be him.

“How did you find me” is world class. It’s a story of a love-shy princess on her wedding day? Reminiscing on how she got shot down by little Cupid. It’s a shameless admission of gratitude, acceptance, with a hint of incredulity. She sings, “You found me” for maybe a whole minute, With such gusto, to a point where you’re not sure if you’re eavesdropping on her private soliloquy. It’s a beautiful, authentic song.

I hope one of my Yoruba friends agrees to transcribe Ife into English for me. (Or Asa could do it personally and make me happy for life). Sonically, the song is a wonderful experience. A clanging electric guitar, a string quartet, Asa soothingly laying out her beautiful voice in your ear, it has everything.

Situation is some Reggae influenced, politically conscious song. Asa croons out on this song, and I feel like I’m in Havana. “This is who we are, its our reality now” is a groovy tune that touches on frustration, hypocrisy, broken promises and a reflection of our society today. Think Amy Winehouse if she studied Tolstoy

Spoiler: Personally, the trumpets absolutely slayed me. Look out for them towards the end of the song, they’re beautiful.

New year is an inspirational song, upbeat in it’s instrumentals and message. The lyrics in this song are maybe the strongest in this album, which surprises you when you realize it, because the rest of the album is so absolutely great!

“Don’t be crazy, It wont break ya, you’ve got to know, when its over, it’s over. It’s a new year”.

Love it.

The one that never comes” is another delicious feast of melancholy. Asa talks about a guy who she put in the dreaded friend-zone, who stupidly watched her looking for love in all the wrong places, and one day blurts out the fact that he loves her. Basically this song should be the national anthem of the friend zone. “Please don’t tell me you love me, don’t tell me you’re falling abeg. I wouldn’t know what to do with myself, I’ve been waiting for the one who never comes”. I’ve been on the receiving end of this song so it’s a bit of a painful listen.

Sometimes I wonder” is, you won’t believe it, Asa talking about her haters. This is not just Asa speaking, it is Bukola Elemide, and you better stop talking nonsense about her. She talks about people spreading lies and rumors, she laughs at the sleepless nights they go through worrying about her, and then she goes “yes its just meeeee”. I don’t think I’ve heard a more “raw” Asa on a song since her first album. Shes Cheeky, She’s upset, but She definitely can defend herself. It’s not the most sonically pleasing song (and it will be especially painful to its intended recipients), but I love it. You go, feisty Asa. Rawr

The final song on the album is Shine your light. Its unlike any Asa song you’ve heard. It’s a totally different sound, and I understand why it was pushed to the end of the album. Basically, you’re too grateful for the rest of the song to put up what should be your first reaction when someone told you this was an Asa song. Doesn’t take any thing from the song though. It’s a beautiful song on its own, and I can imagine hearing it playing at a house party in Marbella, or in River Island store in London.

One thing that gets you is how well produced this album is. The beautiful booklet that gets automatically downloaded when you buy it, lists a “Brian McKichan” as producer. I don’t know much about him, but Kudos to him, and the instrumentalist on this one.

This is an almost perfect album that must surely reestablish Asa as the most important musician ever to come out of Nigeria. She may not have the controversy of Fela, The youthful, attention deficit appeal of the Davidos and Wizkids, but Asa is an incredibly artist that we should all be proud of, and I hope she finally gets the global appreciation she deserves.

I believe this album is important because it so obviously came from a good place. There is so much positivity and contentment oozing out of it that one can only conclude that Asa was in a great place mentally when recording. If this is the case, I’m happy for her, and I wish her that joy all the days of her life. But she is human, and her life may not be as perfect as this album sounds. If that’s the case though, then Asa may have done the one thing that makes truly great artists what they are, create music that transcends the space in time they were currently occupying.

Long may she reign.

Bed of Roses is on sale on Itunes

The Cheaters Guide to Love- by Junot Diaz

YEAR 0
Your girl catches you cheating. (Well, actually she’s your fiancée, but hey, in a bit it so won’t matter.) She could have caught you with one sucia, she could have caught you with two, but because you’re a totally batshit cuero who never empties his e-mail trash can, she caught you with fifty! Sure, over a six-year period, but still. Fifty fucking girls? God damn! Maybe if you’d been engaged to a super-open-minded blanquita you could have survived it—but you’re not engaged to a super-open-minded blanquita. Your girl is a bad-ass salcedense who doesn’t believe in open anything; in fact, the one thing she warned you about, that she swore she would never forgive, was cheating. I’ll put a machete in you, she promised. And, of course, you swore you wouldn’t do it. You swore you wouldn’t. You swore you wouldn’t.

And you did.

She’ll stick around for a few months because you been together a long, long time. Because you’ve gone through so much together—her father’s death, your tenure madness, her bar exam (passed on the third attempt). And because love, real love, is not so easily shed. Over a tortured six-month period you fly together to the D.R., to Mexico (for the funeral of a friend), to New Zealand. You walk the beach where they filmed “The Piano,” something she’s always wanted to do, and now, in penitent desperation, you give it to her. She is immensely sad on that beach and she walks up and down the shining sand alone, her bare feet in the freezing water, and when you try to hug her she says, Don’t. She stares at the rocks jutting out of the water, the wind carrying her hair straight back. On the ride out to the hotel, up through those wild steeps, you pick up a pair of hitchhikers, a couple so giddy with love that you almost throw them out of the car. She says nothing. Later, in the hotel, she cries.

You try every trick in the book to keep her. You write her letters. You drive her to work. You quote Neruda. You compose a mass e-mail disowning all your sucias. You block their e-mails. You change your phone number. You stop drinking. You stop smoking. You claim you’re a sex addict and start attending meetings. You blame your father. You blame your mother. You blame the patriarchy. You blame Santo Domingo. You find a therapist. You cancel your Facebook. You give her the passwords to all your e-mail accounts. You start taking salsa classes, like you always swore you would, so that the two of you can dance together. You claim that you were sick, you claim that you were weak. And every hour, like clockwork, you say that you’re so so sorry. You try it all, but one day she simply sits up in bed and says, No more, and, Ya, and asks you to move from the Harlem apartment that you two share when you’re not teaching in Boston. You consider not going. You consider a squat protest. In fact, you say you won’t go. But, in the end, you do.

For a while you haunt the city, like a two-bit ballplayer dreaming of a call-up. You phone her every day and leave messages that she doesn’t answer. You write her long sensitive letters, which she returns unopened. You even show up at her apartment at odd hours, and at her job downtown, until finally her little sister calls you, the one who was always on your side, and she makes it plain: If you try to contact my sister again, she’s going to put a restraining order on you.

For some Negroes that wouldn’t mean shit.

But you ain’t that kind of Negro.

You stop. You move back to Boston. You never see her again.

YEAR 1

At first you pretend it doesn’t matter. You harbored a lot of grievances against her anyway. Yes, you did! She didn’t give good head, you hated the fuzz on her cheeks, she never waxed her pussy, she never cleaned up around the apartment, etc. For a few weeks, you almost believe it. Of course you go back to smoking, to drinking, you drop the therapist and the sex-addict groups and you run around with the sluts like it’s the good old days, like nothing has happened.

I’m back, you say to your boys.

Elvis laughs. It’s almost like you never left.

You’re fine for, like, a week. Then your moods become erratic. One minute you have to stop yourself from jumping in the car and driving to see her and the next you’re calling a sucia and saying, You’re the one I always wanted. You start losing your temper with friends, with students, with colleagues. You cry every time you hear Monchy y Alexandra, her favorite.

Boston, where you never wanted to live, where you feel you’ve been exiled, becomes a serious problem. You have trouble adjusting to it full time—to its trains that stop running at midnight, to the glumness of its inhabitants, to its startling lack of Szechuan food. Almost on cue, a lot of racist shit starts happening. White people pull up alongside you at traffic lights and scream at you with a hideous rage, like you nearly ran over their mother. It’s fucking scary. Before you can figure out what the hell is going on, they flip you the bird and peel out. It happens again and again. Security guards follow you in stores, and every time you step onto Harvard property you’re asked for I.D. Three times, drunk white dudes in different parts of the city try to pick fights with you.
You take it all very personally. I hope someone drops a fucking bomb on this city, you rant. This is why no people of color want to live here. Why all my black and Latino students leave as soon as they can.

Elvis says nothing. He was born and raised in Jamaica Plain, knows that trying to defend Boston from uncool is like blocking a bullet with a slice of bread. Are you O.K.? he asks, finally.

I’m dandy, you say. Mejor que nunca.

Except you’re not. You’ve lost all the mutual friends you had in N.Y.C. (they went to her), your mother won’t speak to you (she liked the fiancée more than she liked you), and you’re feeling terribly guilty and terribly alone. You keep writing letters to her, waiting for the day that you can hand them to her. You also keep fucking everything that moves. Thanksgiving you end up having to spend alone in your apartment because you can’t face your mom and the idea of accepting other people’s charity makes you furious. The ex, as you’re now calling her, always cooked: a turkey, a chicken, a pernil. Set aside all the wings for you. That night, you drink yourself into a stupor, then spend two days recovering.

You figure that’s as bad as it gets. You figure wrong. During finals a depression rolls over you, so profound that you doubt there is a name for it. It feels like you’re being slowly pincered apart, atom by atom.

You stop hitting the gym or going out for drinks; you stop shaving or washing your clothes; in fact, you stop doing almost everything. Your friends begin to worry about you, and they are not exactly worrying types. I’m O.K., you tell them, but with each passing week the depression deepens. You try to describe it. Like someone flew a plane into your soul. Like someone flew two planes into your soul. Elvis sits shivah with you in the apartment; he pats you on the shoulder, tells you to take it easy. Four years earlier, Elvis had a Humvee blow up on him on a highway outside Baghdad. He was pinned under the burning wreckage for what felt like a week, so he knows a little about pain. His back and buttocks and right arm are so scarred up that even you, Mr. Hard Nose, can’t look at them. Breathe, he tells you. You breathe non-stop, like a marathon runner, but it doesn’t help. Your little letters become more and more pathetic. Please, you write. Please come back. You have dreams where she’s talking to you like in the old days—in that sweet Spanish of the Cibao, no sign of rage, of disappointment. And then you wake up.

You stop sleeping, and some nights when you’re drunk you have a wacky impulse to open the window of your fifth-floor apartment and leap down to the street. But (a) you ain’t the killing-yourself type; (b) your boy Elvis is over all the time, stands by the window as if he knows what you’re thinking; and (c) you have this ridiculous hope that maybe one day she will forgive you.

She doesn’t.

YEAR 2

You make it through both semesters, barely. It really is a long stretch of shit, and then, finally, the madness begins to recede. It’s like waking up from the worst fever of your life. You ain’t your old self (har-har!), but you can stand near windows without being overcome by strange urges, and that’s a start. Unfortunately, you’ve put on forty-five pounds. You don’t know how it happened, but it happened. Only one pair of your jeans fits, and none of your suits. You put away all the old pictures of her, say goodbye to her Wonder Woman features. You go to the barber, shave your head for the first time in forever and cut off your beard.

You done? Elvis asks.

I’m done.

A white grandma screams at you at a traffic light, and you close your eyes until she goes away.
Find yourself another girl, Elvis advises. He’s holding his daughter gingerly. Clavo saca clavo.
Nothing saca nothing, you reply. No one will ever be like her.

O.K. But find yourself a girl anyway.

His daughter was born that February. He puts her in your arms. Find yourself a good Dominican girl, he says.

Do they even exist? you ask.

You had one, didn’t you?

That you did.

You hold the baby uncertainly. Your ex never wanted kids, but toward the end she made you get a sperm test, just in case she decided to change her mind. You put your lips against the baby’s stomach and blow.

You clean up your act. You cut it out with all the old sucias, even the Iranian girl you’d boned the entire time you were with the fiancée. You want to turn over a new leaf. Takes you a bit, but you finally break clear, and when you do you feel lighter. I should have done this years ago, you declare, and your friend Arlenny, who never, ever messed with you (Thank God, she mutters), rolls her eyes.

You wait, what, a week for the bad energy to dissipate and then you start dating. Like a normal person, you tell Elvis. Without any lies. Elvis says nothing, only smiles.

At first it’s O.K.: you get numbers, though nothing you would take home to the fam. Then, after the early rush, it all dries up. It ain’t just a dry spell; it’s fucking Arrakeen. You’re out all the time, but no one seems to be biting. Not even the chicks who swear they love Latin guys. One girl, when you tell her you’re Dominican, actually says, Hell no, and runs full tilt toward the door. Seriously? you say. You begin to wonder if there’s some secret mark on your forehead.

Be patient, Elvis urges.

He’s working for this ghetto-ass landlord and starts taking you with him on collection day. It turns out you’re awesome backup. Deadbeats catch one peep of your dismal grill and cough up their debts on the spot.

One month, two months, three months, and then some hope. Her name is Noemi, Dominican from Baní, and you meet at Sofia’s in the last months before it closes. She ain’t half your ex, but she ain’t bad, either. She’s a nurse, and when Elvis complains about his back she starts listing all the shit it might be. She’s a big girl with skin like you wouldn’t believe, and, best of all, she doesn’t privar at all; actually seems nice. She smiles often, and whenever she’s nervous she says, Tell me something. Minuses: she’s always working, and she has a four-year-old named Justin. She shows you pictures; kid looks like he’ll be dropping an album if she’s not careful. She had him with a banilejo who had four other kids with four other women. And you thought this guy was a good idea for what reason? you say. I was stupid, she admits. Where did you meet him? Same place I met you, she says. Out.

Normally that would be a no-go, but Noemi is not only nice, she’s also kinda fly. One of those hot moms, and you’re excited for the first time in more than a year.
Sunday is her one day off—the Five-Baby Father watches Justin that day, or, rather, he and his new girlfriend watch Justin that day. You and Noemi fall into a little pattern: on Sunday you take her out to dinner—she doesn’t eat anything remotely adventurous, so it’s always Italian—and then she stays the night.

How sweet was that toto? Elvis asks after the first sleepover.

Not sweet at all, because Noemi didn’t give it to you! Three Sundays in a row she sleeps over, and three Sundays in a row nada. A little kissing, a little feeling up, but nothing beyond that. She brings her own pillow, one of those expensive foam ones, and her own toothbrush, and she takes it all with her on Monday morning. Kisses you at the door as she leaves; it all feels too chaste to you, too lacking in promise.

No toto? Elvis looks a little shocked.

No toto, you confirm. What am I, in sixth grade?

You know you should be patient. You know she’s just testing your ass. She’s probably had a lot of bad experiences with the hit-and-run types. Case in point—Justin’s dad. But it galls you that she gave it up to some thug with no job, no education, no nothing, and now she’s making you jump through hoops of fire.

Are we going to see each other on Sunday? she asks when she next calls, and you almost say yes, but then your idiocy gets the better of you.

It depends, you say.

On what? She is instantly guarded, and that adds to your irritation. Where was that guard when she let the banilejo fuck her without a condom?

On whether you’re planning to give me ass anytime soon.

Oh, classiness. You know as soon as you say it that you just buried yourself.

Noemi is silent. Then she says, Let me get off this phone before I say something you won’t like.
This is your last chance, but instead of begging for mercy you bark, Fine.

Within an hour, she has unfriended you on Facebook. You send her one exploratory text, but it’s never answered.

Two years later, you will run into her in Dudley Square but she will pretend not to recognize you, and you won’t force the issue.

Nicely done, Elvis says. Bravo.

You two are pushing his daughter’s stroller around the playground near Columbia Terrace. He tries to be reassuring. She had a kid. That probably wasn’t for you.

Probably not.

Even these little breakups suck, because they send you right back to thinking about the ex. Right back into the depression. This time you spend six months wallowing in it before you return to the world.

After you pull yourself together, you tell Elvis, I think I need a break from the bitches.

What are you going to do?

Focus on me for a while.

That’s a good idea, his wife says. Besides, it only happens when you’re not looking for it.

That’s what everybody claims. Easier to say that than This shit sucks.

This shit sucks, Elvis says. Does that help?

Not really.

As you’re walking home, a Jeep roars past; the driver calls you a fucking towelhead. One of the ex-sucias publishes a poem about you online. It’s called “Puto.”

YEAR 3
You take your break. You try to get back to your work, to your writing. You start three novels: one about a pelotero, one about a narco, and one about a bachatero—all of them suck pipe. You get serious about classes and, for your health, you take up running. You used to run in the old days and you figure you need something to get you out of your head. You must have needed it bad, because once you get into the swing of it you start running four, five, six times a week. It’s your new addiction. You run in the morning and you run late at night, when there’s no one on the paths next to the Charles. You run so hard that your heart feels like it’s going to seize. When winter rolls in, a part of you fears that you’ll fold—Boston winters are on some terrorism shit—but you need the activity more than anything, so you keep at it even as the trees are stripped of their foliage and the paths empty out and the frost reaches into your bones. Soon it’s only you and a couple of other lunatics. Your body changes, of course. You lose all that drinking and smoking chub, and your legs look like they belong to someone else. Every time you think about the ex, every time the loneliness rears up in you like a seething, burning continent, you tie on your shoes and hit the paths and that helps; it really does.

By winter’s end, you’ve gotten to know all the morning regulars and there’s even this one girl who inspires in you some hope. You pass each other a couple of times a week, and she’s a pleasure to watch, a gazelle, really—what economy, what gait, and what an amazing fucking cuerpazo. She always smiles at you as you pass. You consider flopping in front of her—My leg! My leg!—but that seems incredibly cursi. You keep hoping you’ll bump into her around town.

The running is going splendidly, and then six months in you feel a pain in your right foot. Along the inside arch, a searing that doesn’t subside after a few days’ rest. Soon you’re hobbling even when you’re not running. You drop in on Emergency Care and the P.N. pushes with his thumb, watches you writhe, and announces that you have plantar fasciitis.

You have no idea what that is. When can I run again?

He gives you a pamphlet. Sometimes it takes a month. Sometimes six months. Sometimes a year. He pauses. Sometimes longer.

That makes you so sad that you go home and lie in bed in the dark. You’re afraid. I don’t want to go back down the hole, you tell Elvis. Then don’t, he says. Like a hardhead you keep trying to run, but the pain sharpens. Finally, you give up. You put away the shoes. You sleep in. When you see other people hitting the paths, you turn away. You find yourself crying in front of sporting-goods stores. Out of nowhere you call the ex, but of course she doesn’t pick up. The fact that she hasn’t changed her number gives you strange hope, even though you’ve heard that she’s dating somebody.

Elvis encourages you to try yoga, the half-Bikram kind they teach in Central Square. Mad fucking hos in there, he says. I’m talking hos by the ton. While you’re not exactly feeling the hos right now, you don’t want to lose all the conditioning you’ve built up, so you give it a shot. The namaste bullshit you could do without, but you fall into it and soon you’re pulling vinyasas with the best of them. Elvis was certainly right. There are mad hos, all with their asses in the air, but none of them catch your eye. One miniature blanquita does try to chat you up. She seems impressed that, of all the guys in the class, you alone never take off your shirt, but you skitter away from her cornpone grin. What the hell are you going to do with a blanquita?

Bone the shit out of her, Elvis offers.

Bust a nut in her mouth, your boy Darnell seconds.

Give her a chance, Arlenny proposes.

But you don’t do any of it. At the end of the sessions, you move away quickly to wipe down your mat and she takes the hint. She doesn’t mess with you again.

You actually become pretty obsessed with yoga, and soon you’re taking your mat with you wherever you go.

You finally start work on your eighties apocalypse novel—finally starting means you write a paragraph—and in a flush of confidence you begin messing with this young morena from Harvard Law School whom you meet at the Enormous Room. She’s half your age, one of those super-geniuses who finished undergrad when she was nineteen and is seriously lovely. Elvis and Darnell approve. Aces, they say. Arlenny demurs. She’s really young, no?

Yes, she’s really young and you fuck a whole lot, and during the act the two of you cling to each other for dear life, but afterward you peel away like you’re ashamed of yourselves. Most of the time, you suspect that she feels sorry for you. She says that she likes your mind, but, considering that she’s smarter than you, that seems doubtful. What she does appear to like is your body, can’t keep her hands off it. I should get back to ballet, she says while undressing you. Then you’d lose your thick, you note, and she laughs. I know, that’s the dilemma.

It’s all going swell, it’s all marvellous, and then, in the middle of a sun salutation, you feel a shift in your lower back and pau—it’s like a sudden power failure. You lose all your strength, have to lie down. Yes, the instructor urges, rest if you have to. When the class is over, you need help from the little white girl to rise to your feet. Do you want me to take you somewhere? she asks, but you shake your head. The walk back to your apartment is some Bataan-type shit. At the Plough and Stars, you collapse against a stop sign and call Elvis on your cell.

He arrives in a flash, with a hottie in tow. She’s a straight-up Cambridge Cape Verdean. Who’s that? you ask, and he shakes his head. Drags you into Emergency Care. By the time the doctor appears, you’re crabbed over like an old man.

It appears to be a ruptured disk, she announces.

Yay, you say.

You’re in bed for a solid two weeks. Elvis brings you food and sits with you while you eat. He talks about the Cape Verdean girl. She’s got, like, the perfect pussy, he says. It’s like putting your dick in a hot mango.

You listen for a bit and then you say, Just don’t end up like me.

Elvis grins. Shit, no one could ever end up like you, Yunior. You’re a D.R. original.

So now it’s your feet, your back, and your heart. You can’t run, you can’t do yoga, even riding a bike kills your back. So you stick to walking. You do it for an hour each morning and an hour each night. There is no rush to the head, no tearing up your lungs, no massive shock to your system, but it’s better than nothing.

A month later, the law student leaves you for one of her classmates, tells you that it was great but she has to start being realistic. Translation: I got to stop fucking with old dudes. Later, you see her with said classmate in the Yard. He’s lighter than you but he still looks unquestionably black. He’s also, like, nine feet tall and put together like an anatomy primer. They’re walking hand in hand, and she looks so very happy that you try to find the space in your heart not to begrudge her. Two seconds later, security approaches you and asks for I.D. The next day, a white kid on a bike throws a can of Diet Coke at you.

Classes start, and by then the squares on your abdomen have been reabsorbed, like tiny islands in a rising sea of lard. You scan the incoming junior faculty for a possible, but there’s nothing. You watch a lot of TV. Sometimes Elvis joins you, since his wife doesn’t allow him to smoke weed in the house. He’s taken up yoga now, having seen what it did for you. You want not to hate him. What happened to the Cape Verdean girl?

What Cape Verdean girl? he says dryly.

You make little advances. You start doing pushups and pullups and even some of your old yoga moves, but very carefully. You have dinner with two girls. One doesn’t like you; the other is married and hot for days, in the late-thirties-Dominican-middle-class-woman sort of way. You can tell that she’s contemplating sleeping with you, and the whole time you’re eating your short ribs you feel like you’re on the dock. In Santo Domingo I’d never be able to meet you like this, she says with great generosity. Almost all her conversations start with In Santo Domingo. She’s doing a year at the business school, and for how much she gushes about Boston you can tell that she misses the D.R., would never live anywhere else.

Boston is really racist, you offer by way of orientation.

She looks at you like you’re crazy. Boston isn’t racist, she says. She also scoffs at the idea of racism in Santo Domingo.

So Dominicans love Haitians now?

That’s not about race. She pronounces every syllable. That’s about nationality.

Of course you end up in bed, and it ain’t bad except for the fact that she never, never comes and she spends a lot of time complaining about her husband. Soon you’re squiring her around the city and beyond: to Salem on Halloween and one weekend to the Cape. No one ever pulls you over or asks you for I.D. when you’re with her. Everywhere you two go she shoots photos, but never any of you. She writes her kids postcards while you’re in bed.

At the end of the semester, she returns home. My home, not your home, she says tetchily. She’s always trying to prove you’re not Dominican. If I’m not Dominican, then no one is, you shoot back, but she laughs at that. Say that in Spanish, she challenges and, of course, you can’t. Last day, you drive her to the airport and there is no crushing “Casablanca” kiss, just a smile and a little gay-ass hug and her fake breasts push against you like something irrevocable. Write, you tell her, and she says, Por supuesto, and, of course, neither of you does. You eventually erase her contact info from your phone, but not the pictures you took of her in bed while she was naked and asleep, never those.

YEAR 4
Wedding invitations from the ex-sucias start to arrive in the mail. You have no idea how to explain this berserkería. What the fuck, you say. Arlenny turns over the cards, quotes Oates: Revenge is living well, without you.

That year your arms and legs begin to give you trouble, occasionally going numb, flickering in and out like a brownout back on the Island. It is a strange pins-and-needles feeling. What the fuck is this? you wonder. I hope I’m not dying. You’re probably working out too hard, Elvis says. But I’m not really working out at all, you protest. Probably just stress, the nurse at Emergency Care tells you. You hope so, flexing your hands, worrying. You really do hope so.

March you fly out to the Bay to deliver a lecture, which does not go well; almost no one shows up beyond those who were forced to by their professors. Afterward, you head out alone to a Korean joint and gorge on kalbi until you’re ready to burst. You drive around, just to get a feel for the city. You have a couple of friends in town but you don’t call them, because you know they’ll only want to talk about old times, about the ex. You have a sucia in town, too, and in the end you call her, but when she hears your name she hangs up on your ass.

When you return to Boston, the law student is waiting for you in the lobby of your building. You’re surprised and excited and a little wary. What’s up?

It’s like bad television. You notice that she has lined up three suitcases in the foyer. And, on closer inspection, that her ridiculously Persian-looking eyes are red from crying, her mascara freshly applied.

I’m pregnant, she says.

At first you don’t register it. You joke, And?

You asshole. She starts crying. It’s probably your stupid fucking kid.

There are surprises and there are surprises, and then there is this.

You don’t know what to say or how to act, so you take her upstairs. You lug up the suitcases despite your back, despite your foot, despite your flickering arms. She says nothing, just hugs her pillow to her Howard sweater. She is a Southern girl with supremely erect posture, and when she sits down you feel as if she were preparing to interview you. After serving her tea you ask, Are you keeping it?

Of course I’m keeping it.

What about Kimathi?

She doesn’t get it. Who?

Your Kenyan. You can’t bring yourself to say boyfriend.

He threw me out. He knows it’s not his. She picks at something on her sweater. I’m going to unpack, O.K.? You nod and watch her. She is an exceptionally beautiful girl. You think of that old saying Show me a beautiful girl and I’ll show you someone who is tired of fucking her. You doubt you would ever have tired of her, though.

But it could be his, right?

It’s yours, O.K.? she cries. I know you don’t want it to be yours, but it’s yours.

You are surprised at how hollowed out you feel. You don’t know if you should show enthusiasm or support. You run your hand over the thinning stubble on your head.

I need to stay here, she tells you later, after the two of you fumble through an awkward fuck. I have nowhere to go. I can’t go back to my family.

When you tell Elvis the whole story you expect him to flip out, to order you to kick her out. You fear his reaction, because you know that you don’t have the heart to kick her out.

But Elvis doesn’t flip. He slaps you on the back, beams delightedly. That’s great, cuz.

What do you mean, That’s great?

You’re going to be a father. You’re going to have a son.

A son? What are you talking about? There isn’t even proof that it’s mine.

Elvis isn’t listening. He’s smiling at some inner thought. He checks to make sure the wife isn’t within earshot. Remember the last time we went to the D.R.?

Of course you do. Three years ago. Everybody had a blast except you. You were in the middle of the great downturn, which meant that you spent most of your time alone, floating on your back in the ocean or getting drunk at the bar or walking the beach in the early morning before anybody was up.

What about it?

Well, I got a girl pregnant while we were down there.

Are you fucking kidding me?

He nods.

Pregnant?

He nods again.

Did she have it?

He rummages through his cell phone. Shows you a picture of a perfect little boy with the most Dominican little face you ever saw.

That’s my son, Elvis says proudly. Elvis Xavier Junior.

Dude, are you fucking serious with this? If your wife finds—

He bridles. She ain’t going to find out. Elvis punches you in the arm. Babies are fucking expensive. So just get ready, buster, to be broke as a joke.

Back at the apartment, the law student has taken over two of your closets and almost your entire bathroom, and, most crucially, she has laid claim to the bed. She has put a pillow and a sheet on the couch. For you.

What, am I not allowed to share the bed with you?

I don’t think it’s good for me, she says. It would be too stressful. I don’t want to miscarry.
Hard to argue with that. Your back doesn’t take to the couch at all, so now you wake up in the morning in more pain than ever.

Only a bitch of color comes to Harvard to get pregnant. White women don’t do that. Asian women don’t do that. Only fucking black and Latina women. Why go to all the trouble to get into Harvard just to get knocked up? You could have stayed on the block and done that shit.

This is what you write in your journal. The next day when you return from classes, the law student throws the notebook in your face. I fucking hate you, she wails.

She walks to the kitchen and starts to pour herself a shot, and you find yourself pulling the bottle out of her hand and tipping its contents into the sink. This is ridiculous, you say. More bad TV.
She doesn’t speak to you again for two whole fucking weeks. You spend as much time as you can either at your office or over at Elvis’s house. Whenever you enter a room, she snaps her laptop shut. I’m not fucking snooping, you say. But she waits for you to move on before she returns to typing whatever she was typing.

You can’t throw out your baby’s mom, Elvis reminds you. It would fuck that kid up for life. Plus, it’s bad karma. Just wait till the baby comes. She’ll straighten out.

A month passes, two months pass. You’re afraid to tell anybody else, to share the—what? Good news? Arlenny, you know, would march right in and boot her ass out on the street.
Your back is agony, and the numbness in your arms is starting to become pretty steady. In the shower, the only place in the apartment you can be alone, you whisper to yourself, Hell, Netley. We’re in hell.

Later, it will all seem like a terrible fever dream, but at the time it moved so very slowly, felt so very concrete. You take her to her appointments. You help her with the vitamins and shit. You pay for almost everything. She is not speaking to her mother, so all she has is two girlfriends, who are in the apartment almost as much as you are. They are members of the Biracial Identity Crisis Support Group and they look at you with little warmth. You wait for the law student to melt, but she keeps her distance. Some days, while she’s sleeping and you’re trying to work, you allow yourself the indulgence of wondering what kind of child you’ll have. Whether it will be a boy or a girl, smart or withdrawn. Like you or like her.

Have you thought up any names? Elvis’s wife asks.

Not yet.

Taína for a girl, she suggests. And Elvis for a boy. She throws a taunting glance at her husband and laughs.

I like my name, Elvis says. I would give it to a boy.

Over my dead body, his wife says. And, besides, this oven is closed for business.

At night, while you’re trying to sleep, you see the glow of the law student’s computer through the open door of the bedroom, hear her fingers on the keyboard.

Do you need anything?

I’m fine, thank you.

You go to the door a few times and watch her, wanting to be called in, but she always glares and asks you, What the fuck do you want?

Just checking.

Fifth month, sixth month, seventh month. You are in class teaching Intro to Fiction when you get a text from one of her girlfriends saying she has gone into labor, six weeks early. All sorts of terrible fears race around inside you. You keep trying her cell phone, but she doesn’t answer. You call Elvis, but he doesn’t answer, either, so you drive over to the hospital by yourself.

Are you the father? the woman at the desk asks.

I am, you say diffidently.

You are led around the corridors and finally given some scrubs and told to wash your hands. You are given instructions on where you should stand and warned about the procedure, but as soon as you walk into the birthing room the law student shrieks, I don’t want him in here. I don’t want him in here. He’s not the father.

You didn’t think anything could hurt so bad. Her two girlfriends rush at you, but you have already exited. You saw her thin ashy legs and the doctor’s back and little else. You’re glad you didn’t see anything more. You would have felt like you’d violated her safety or something. You take off the scrubs; you wait around for a bit and then you realize what you’re doing and, finally, you drive home.

You hear not from her but from her girlfriend, the same one who texted you about the labor. I’ll come pick up her bags, O.K.? When she arrives, she glances around the apartment warily. You’re not going to go psycho on me, are you?

No, I’m not. After a pause you demand, Why would you say that? I’ve never hurt a woman in my life. Then you realize how you sound—like a dude who hurts women all the time. Everything goes back into the three suitcases and then you help her wrestle them down to her S.U.V.

You must be relieved, she says.

You don’t answer.

And that’s the end of it. Later, you hear that the Kenyan visited the law student in the hospital, and when he saw the baby a teary reconciliation occurred and all was forgiven.
That was your mistake, Elvis said. You should have had a baby with that ex of yours. Then she wouldn’t have left you.

She would have left you, Arlenny says. Believe it.

The rest of the semester ends up being a super-duper clusterfuck. Lowest evaluations in your six years as a professor. Your only student of color that semester writes, He tells us that we don’t know anything, but doesn’t show us any way to address these deficiencies. One night you call your ex and when the voice mail clicks on you say, We should have had a kid. And then you hang up, ashamed. Why did you say that? you ask yourself. Now she’ll definitely never speak to you again.

I don’t think the phone call is the problem, Arlenny says.

Check it out. Elvis produces a picture of Elvis, Jr., holding a bat. This kid is going to be a monster.
On winter break, you fly to the D.R. with Elvis. What the hell else are you going to do? You ain’t got nothing going on, outside of waving your arms around every time they go numb.

Elvis is beyond excited. He has three suitcases of swag for the boy, including his first glove, his first ball, his first Bosox jersey. About eighty kilos of clothes and shit for the baby mama. Hid them all in your apartment, too. You are at his house when he bids his wife and mother-in-law and daughter goodbye. His daughter doesn’t seem to understand what’s happening, but when the door shuts she lets out a wail that coils about you like constantine wire. Elvis stays cool as fuck. This used to be me, you’re thinking.

Of course you look for her on the flight. You can’t help yourself.

You assume that the baby mama will live somewhere poor, like Capotillo or Los Alcarrizos, but you didn’t imagine she would live in the Nadalands. You’ve been to the Nadalands a couple of times before; shit, your family came up out of those spaces. Squatter chawls where there are no roads, no lights, no running water, no grid, no anything, where everybody’s slapdash house is on top of everybody else’s, where it’s all mud and shanties and motos and grind and thin, smiling motherfuckers everywhere, like falling off the rim of civilization. You have to leave the rental jípeta on the last bit of paved road and jump on the back of two motoconchos with all the luggage balanced on your backs. Nobody stares, because those ain’t real loads you’re carrying: You’ve seen a single moto carry a family of five and their pig.

You finally pull up to a tiny little house, and out comes Baby Mama—cue happy homecoming. You wish you could say you remember Baby Mama from that long-ago trip, but you do not. She is tall and very thick, exactly how Elvis always likes them. She is no older than twenty-one, twenty-two, with an irresistible Georgina Duluc smile, and when she sees you she gives you a huge abrazo. So the padrino finally decides to visit, she declaims in one of those loud ronca campesina voices. You also meet her mother, her grandmother, her brother, her sister, her three uncles. Seems like everybody is missing teeth.

Elvis picks up the boy. Mi hijo, he sings. Mi hijo.

The boy starts crying.

Baby Mama’s place is barely two rooms—one bed, one chair, a little table, a single bulb overhead. More mosquitoes than a refugee camp. Raw sewage in the back. The few family photos hanging on the walls are water-stained. When it rains—Baby Mama lifts up her hands—everything goes.
Don’t worry, Elvis says, I’m moving them out this month, if I can get the loot together.

The happy couple leave you with the family and Elvis, Jr., while they visit various negocios to settle accounts and to pick up some necessaries.

So you sit on a plastic chair in front of the house with the kid in your lap. The neighbors admire you with cheerful avidity. A domino game breaks out, and you team up with Baby Mama’s brooding brother. Takes him less than five seconds to talk you into ordering a couple of grandes and a bottle of Brugal from the nearby colmado. Also three boxes of cigarettes, a yard of salami, and some cough syrup for a neighbor lady with a congested daughter. Ta muy mal, she says. Of course they all have a sister or a prima they want you to meet. Que tan más buena que el Diablo, they guarantee. You barely finish the first bottle of romo before some of the sisters and primas actually start coming around. They look rough, but you got to give it to them for trying. You invite them all to sit down, order more beer and some bad pica pollo.

Just let me know which one you like, a neighbor whispers, and I’ll make it happen.
Elvis, Jr., watches you with considerable gravitas. He is a piercingly cute carajito. He has all these mosquito bites on his legs and an old scab on his head that no one can explain to you. You are suddenly overcome with the urge to cover him with your arms, with your whole body.
Later, Elvis, Sr., fills you in on the Plan: I’ll bring him over to the States in a few years. I’ll tell the wife he was an accident, a onetime thing when I was drunk and I didn’t find out about it until now.
And that’s going to work?

It will work out, he says testily.

Bro, your wife ain’t going to buy that.

And what the fuck do you know? Elvis says. It ain’t like your shit ever works.

Can’t argue with that. You pick up the boy. You look into his eyes. He looks into yours. He seems preternaturally sapient. M.I.T.-bound, you say, as you nuzzle his peppercorn hair. He starts to bawl then, and you put him down, watch him run around awhile.

That’s more or less when you know.

The second story of the house is unfinished, rebar poking out of the cinder block like horrible gnarled follicles, and you and Elvis stand up there and drink beers and stare out beyond the edge of the city, beyond the vast radio-dish antennas in the distance, out toward the mountains of the Cibao, the Cordillera Central, where your father was born and where your ex’s whole family is from. It’s breathtaking.

He’s not yours, you tell Elvis.

What are you talking about?

The boy is not yours.

Don’t be a jerk. That kid looks just like me.

Elvis. You put your hand on his arm. Cut the crap.

A long silence. But he looks like me.

Bro, he so doesn’t look like you.

The next day you two load up the boy and drive back into the city, back into Gazcue. You literally have to beat the family off to keep them from coming with you. Before you go, one of the uncles pulls you aside: You really should bring these people a refrigerator. Then the brother pulls you aside: And a TV. And then the mother pulls you aside: A hot comb, too.

Traffic back into the center is Gaza Strip-crazy and there seems to be a crash every five hundred metres, and Elvis keeps threatening to turn around. You ignore him. You stare at the slurry of broken concrete, the sellers with all the crap of the earth slung over their shoulders, the dust-covered palms. The boy holds on to you tightly. There is no significance in this, you tell yourself. It’s a Moro-type ref Don’t make me do this, Yunior, Elvis pleads.

You insist. You have to, E. You know you can’t live a lie. It won’t be good for the boy, it won’t be good for you. Don’t you think it’s better to know?

But I always wanted a boy, he says. My whole life, that’s all I wanted. When I got in that shit in Iraq, I kept thinking, Please, God, let me live just long enough to have a son, please, and then you can kill me dead right after. And look, He gave him to me, didn’t He? He gave him to me.
The clinic is in one of those houses they built in the International Style during the time of Trujillo. The two of you stand at the front desk. You are holding the boy’s hand. The boy is staring at you with lapidary intensity. The mud is waiting. The mosquito bites are waiting. The Nada is waiting.
Go on, you tell Elvis.

In all honesty, you’re thinking that he won’t do it, that this is where it will end. He’ll take the boy and turn around and go back to the jípeta. But he carries the little guy into a room where a nurse swabs both their mouths, and it’s done.

You ask, How long will it take for the results?

Four weeks, the technician tells you.

That long?

She shrugs. Welcome to Santo Domingo.

YEAR 5
Four weeks after the trip, Elvis informs you that the test was negative. Fuck, he says bitterly, fuck fuck fuck. And then he cuts off all contact with the kid and the mother. Changes his cell-phone number and his e-mail account.

Of course you feel terrible. You think about the way the boy looked at you. Let me have her number at least, you say. You figure you can throw her a little cash every month, but he won’t have it. Fuck that lying bitch.

You reckon he must have known, somewhere inside, maybe even wanted you to blow it all up, but you let it be, don’t explore it. He’s going to yoga five times a week now, is in the best shape of his life, while you, on the other hand, have to buy bigger jeans again.

With him, it’s like nothing happened. You wish you could be as phlegmatic.

Do you ever think about them?

He shakes his head. Never will, either.

The numbness in your arms and legs increases. You return to your doctors and they send you over to a neurologist, who sends you out for an MRI. Looks like you have stenosis all down your spine, the doctor reports, impressed.

Is it bad?

It isn’t great. Did you use to do a lot of heavy manual labor?

Besides delivering pool tables, you mean?

That would do it. The doctor squints at the MRI. Let’s try some physical therapy. If that doesn’t work, we’ll talk about other options.

Like?

He stares at his fingers contemplatively. Surgery.

From there, what little life you have goes south. A student complains to the school that you curse too much. You have to have a sit-down with the dean, who more or less tells you to watch your shit. You get pulled over by the cops three weekends in a row. One time, they sit you out on the curb and you watch as all the other whips sail past, passengers ogling you as they go. On the T, you swear that you see your ex in the rush-hour mix and for a second your knees buckle, but it turns out to be just another Latina mujerón in a tailored suit.

Of course you dream about her. You are in New Zealand or in Santo Domingo or, improbably, back in college, in the dorms. You want her to say your name, to touch you, but she doesn’t. She just shakes her head.

Ya.

You want to move on, to exorcise shit, so you find a new apartment on the other side of the Square that has a view of the Harvard skyline. All those amazing steeples, including your favorite, the gray dagger of the Old Cambridge Baptist Church. In the first days of your tenancy, an eagle lands in the dead tree right outside your fifth-story window. Looks you in the eye. This seems to you like a good sign.

A month later, the law student sends you an invitation to her wedding in Kenya. There’s a photo of the two of them dressed in what you assume are traditional Kenyan jump-offs. She looks very thin, and she’s wearing a lot of makeup. You expect a note, some mention of what you did for her, but there is nothing. Even the address was typed on a computer.

Maybe it was a mistake, you say.

It wasn’t a mistake, Arlenny assures you.

Elvis tears the invite up, throws it out the window of his truck. Fuck that bitch. Fuck all bitches.
You manage to save a tiny piece of the photo. It’s of her hand.

You work harder than you’ve ever worked at anything—the teaching, your physical therapy, your regular therapy, your reading, your walking. You keep waiting for the heaviness to leave you. You keep waiting for the moment when you’ll never think about the ex again. It doesn’t come.
You ask everybody you know, How long does it usually take to get over it?

There are many formulas. One year for every year you dated. Two years for every year you dated. It’s just a matter of will power: the day you decide it’s over, it’s over. You never get over it.
lex, nothing more.

One night that winter, you go out with all the boys to a ghetto-ass Latin club in Mattapan Square. Outside, it’s close to zero, but inside it’s so hot that everybody’s stripped down to T-shirts and the funk is thick as a fro. There’s a girl who keeps bumping into you. You say to her, Pero mi amor, ya. And she says, Ya yourself. She’s Dominican and lithe and super-tall. I could never date anyone as short as you, she informs you very early on in your conversations. But at the end of the night she gives you her number. All evening, Elvis sits at the bar quietly, drinking shot after shot of Rémy. He’s just got back from a quick solo trip to the D.R., a ghost recon. Didn’t tell you about it until after. He tried looking for the mom and Elvis, Jr., but they had moved and no one knew where they were. None of the numbers he had for her worked. I hope they turn up, he says.

I hope so, too.

You take the longest walks. Every ten minutes you drop and do squats or pushups. It’s not running, but it raises your heart rate. Afterward you’re in so much nerve pain that you can barely move.
Some nights you have “Neuromancer” dreams where you see the ex and the boy and another figure, familiar, waving at you in the distance. Somewhere, very close,the laugh that wasn’t laughter.

Finally, when you feel like you can do so without exploding into burning atoms, you open a folder that you’ve kept hidden under your bed. The Doomsday Book. Copies of all the e-mails and photos from the cheating days, the ones the ex found and compiled and mailed to you a month after she ended it. Dear Yunior, for your next book. Probably the last time she wrote your name.
You read the whole thing cover to cover (yes, she put covers on it). You are surprised at what a fucking chickenshit coward you are. It kills you to admit it, but it’s true. You are astounded by the depths of your mendacity. When you finish the book a second time, you say the truth: You did the right thing, negra. You did the right thing.

She’s right; this would make a killer book, Elvis says. The two of you have been pulled over by a cop and are waiting for Officer Dickhead to finish running your license. Elvis holds up one of the photos.

She’s Colombian, you say.

He whistles. Que viva Colombia. Hands you back the book. You really should write the cheater’s guide to love.

You think?

I do.

It takes a while. You see the tall girl. You go to more doctors. You celebrate Arlenny’s Ph.D. defense. And then, one June night, you scribble the ex’s name and: The half-life of love is forever.
You bust out a couple more things. Then you put your head down.

The next day, you look at the new pages. For once, you don’t want to burn them or give up writing forever.

It’s a start, you say to the room.

That’s about it. In the months that follow, you bend to the work, because it feels like hope, like grace—and because you know in your lying cheater’s heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.

My Nigeria: of resilience, helplessness and a shared identity

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“Learned helplessness was first demonstrated by Martin Seligman and his colleagues. They identified conditions under which dogs would demonstrate apathetic behavior when they were punished by means of electric shock. In the experiment, dogs were continually electrocuted to the point where they simply accepted electrocution and did not try to escape it. The dogs learned, correctly, that electrocution was unavoidable, and with this acquired knowledge, they simply lay down on the surface of their cages and took the shocks. By doing so, they demonstrated what is meant by learned helplessness.” Learned Helplessness as a Correlate of Psychosis: Examining evidence of learned helplessness in various types of schizophrenia. Published on January 4, 2014 by Dr. Ann Olson, Psy.D. in Theory and Psychopathology

Every morning I wake up, say a prayer, head to the gym to do some running, get dressed, head to work, study, speak to friends and loved ones. pretty normal life, you might say. If someone were to follow me around they would imagine that i was happy and all was well.

It isn’t.

I, like many other Nigerians, am scared. I’m terrified and sad, at the state of my beloved country. I never would have dreamed that i would be living in a place like this, where the reports of numerous people dying becomes so frequent that the mind is almost numbed to it. Numbers are thrown around: 500, 234, 70, 90, 50, 4, these are not just numbers, these are lives that have been cut short, people that have died senselessly. 

These are people who woke up in the morning trying to get to work, like i do everyday, and died burning, or cut down, or gunned down, over a grudge they had nothing to do with. Children, who for the sake of a better life, went to school in the morning, and found themselves being herded off into the forest, at gunpoint, to serve the whims of wicked monsters they did not offend. The tales of tragedy scare me. they make me angry, they make me sad. 

I, like many other Nigerians, am heartbroken. I weep for the orphaned children, the suddenly childless mothers, the number of people living in total fear, of an enemy they could not possibly imagine. An enemy with an indiscriminate bloodlust. For these people, death has become a part of their reality. Innocence has been lost forever. Their homes, their schools, their churches and mosques could become their tombs at any time. the mental torture that these people have been subjected to will manifest in more serious ways in the near future, in their anger and resentment at a country that does nothing but try to kill you. I weep for this generation of Nigerians.

I, like many other Nigerians, am angry. I am angry because I feel helpless. I am angry because the institutions tasked with the protection of lives and property, the security and well being of citizens, that most basic tenet of what it means to be a human being, are failing. No matter your political allegiances or familial connections, it is a glaring fact that has to be accepted by all, for us to even move forward. Do i believe that there is high level complicity by the military, the government or any other conspiracy theories? I do not. I have family members in the military, men and women of unquestionable character and integrity, who have ben risking their lives for this country since even before i was born, but the fact is that this is a threat that seems to have overwhelmed even this patriotic class of Nigerians. 

There is a place and a time to ask why. Why are these things happening? Who is behind this? What do they want? I don’t believe that time is now. This is the time for leadership, this is the time for ownership. This is the time that we as Nigerians must come together to condemn and fight back at this common enemy, because that is what this is. This is not the time for name calling, This is not the time to insult the President or the armed forces, this is the time to act. 

When people are afraid to go to work, to go to the market, to go to school, then the enemy succeeds. When we are divided amongst ourselves, with half of us calling the president and government incompetent fools, and the other half of us taking up arms in defence of these institutions, then the enemy succeeds. When those who should know better, the religious leaders who have, by virtue of our Nigerian spirituality, ascribed so much power to themselves, when they speak untruths, hypocrisy and cowardice, to protect their positions or deliberately mislead, this demonic enemy succeeds. When those amongst us, full of patriotic fervour, decide to take to the streets, or start campaigns to persuade the government to act, and we sit at home and criticise them and their motives, the enemy succeeds. When we complain about how Nigeria was set up to fail 100 years ago by the British, and how we need to break up to survive, the enemy succeeds. When we resort to ethnic and religious bigotry, blaming other tribes and faiths, or insensitivity to the suffering of others, when we refuse to give help, no matter how small, to those around us in such obvious need, this enemy succeeds.

We as citizens of this great nation must strive to do as much as we can to protect our neighbours and ensure that we and our children have a safe place to live in.

We as YOUTHS have an even greater imperative than our parents to do this. In a nation with over 70% of us under the age of 30, we have no other hope but a strong, safe Nigeria. 

The rest of the world, whether we like their interference or not, also has a responsibility to offer assistance to the government of Nigeria. There are 170 million of us, the world is not big enough for a Nigerian refugee crisis. 

Invention is at the very core of what it means to be Nigerian. We create electricity for ourselves, we tap water for ourselves, we create economic opportunities in the midst of unemployment. We are loud, We are entrepreneurs, We are friendly, We are beautiful, We are colourful. We are strong, We are big, We solve problems. This is what it means to be Nigerian. This is who we are. I have seen many people writing about a lack of shared identity, but you can go to any corner of the country, and you will meet people who possess the qualities i have talked about. This is who we are. This is where we have to start from. This is what we have to reinforce. This is the reason why my father could go to Borno all those years ago to set up a hospital, learn the language and raise children there. This is the reason why entrepreneurs from the east have always built thriving businesses in the North. North, south, east and west, We all depend on each other. This is unquestionable. This is not negotiable. We are all fully invested in this nation, and we cannot throw her future away.

What can we do to help, as citizens? 

1. We have to be vigilant: http://www.npf.gov.ng/emergency-contact Here is a list from the Nigeria police website with the mobile numbers of the CP’s and senior officials of the force. I know there is a lot of cynicsm about this, but you absolutely HAVE to report any suspicious behaviour around you. we all have that responsibility. find out who is in charge, the details of your nearest police station, find out names of officers, find out numbers and call them. 

2. We have to be Proactive: A democracy is only as strong as the citizens are. we have to be aware of what is happening, and put pressure on our elected representatives to tackle this issue head on. you and i don’t have the power to send soldiers to Chibok, but we can make sure that the representatives that we have put in government do that, because they are accountable to us. I cannot understate the importance of social media, but above that there have to be active, fearless engagement with people in authority, to make sure that they act. 

http://www.change.org/en-GB/petitions/over-200-girls-are-missing-in-nigeria-please-help-find-them-bringbackourgirls

This is a petition for the Nigerian Government over the 234 missing girls, please sign and share, and spread awareness. We can underestimate the power of social media in Nigeria today, but everyone can see that its becoming increasingly useful and important in creating and sustaining awareness. it will only get more important in future. understand it, use it, but also go out in the world and demand answers.

For my friends joining protest marches, i urge you to be careful, to be vigilant and to keep track of the reasons why you are demonstrating. peaceful protests will do the job, riots will not. 

3. We have to be tolerant: What we are facing is not an attack on christians, neither is it an attack on muslims. it is the systematic assault on every Nigerian. these are people trying to put fear in our hearts, the fear of them, the fear of our neighbours, the fear of other religions and tribes. we refuse to be afraid, we refuse to discriminate, and we refuse to be broken. We are Christian, Muslim, we are Igbo, Ijaw, Yoruba or Fulani, but we are NIGERIAN. One Nigeria. 

We have to fight ignorance wherever we see it. It is our duty to educate people and correct our friends, colleagues and families when we hear incorrect, bigoted statements. such thinking will not help us out of this, but will deepen and prolong our suffering.

4. We have to be compassionate: Right now there are thousand of people that have been displaced from their homes as a result of this crisis. there are children with no parents, there are people who have lost everything valuable. we have to contribute to these lives, we have to help them. there are hundreds of people in hospitals with little or no blood in some cases. there is always something we can do to help, to reassure our brothers that the country cares for them, cares for its people, and they have a future here. 

The guys at Lifebank have built an amazing app that makes finding and donating blood easier: https://www.facebook.com/LifeBankApp

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Communities-Without-Boundaries-International/195121830505148

Communities without borders are helping out in Northern Nigeria too, I will find other charities helping out, and even if you cant physically support them i beg you to engage with them, donate, and provide any support that you can

We are not helpless. We are facing something that, while a new phenomenon, has been bubbling under the surface for a while,

because of priorities that we have collectively refused to address until now, for whatever reason. But if God keeps us, I am RESOLUTE in my conviction that my generation will be different. We will prioritise education, employment and we will address and learn from our history, no matter how dark it may be. The lesson not learnt is the mistake repeated. 

God bless Nigeria, God bless us all.

Believe: A poem

Believe. A wind blowing against your skin

Tempting in its touch: but terrifying in its threat. That almighty demand

That most powerful word that mankind should fear.

seductive in its questioning, that beautiful, sad promise,

That most terrible request, the innocent will one day hear.

Believe.

 

Believe in what is and what was

Believe in what may and may not be.

In things seen and unseen

And ignore what is and what is not.

Change the course of destiny.

Believe.

 

Believe, join the ranks

Of the killers, the saints the joyous and ignorant bliss

Of the zombies, the blind and the foolish

Or remain as one of the blind and the foolish.

The choice is yours?

Believe.

 

That the world is in fact

Not round but flat, not wicked but slow.

In justice, freedom and the justification of slavery and oppression

Give in and feel your soul safely embedded in history

In the ranks, with the saints, the sinners and the hypocrites.

Believe that the world works for you

Believe in something more, or less, and walk in the eternal sunshine of your mind.

Form your dreams in context.

Live your life within its walls

But do what i say.

Believe.

 

Belief is power, Belief is grief. Belief is righteous anger. Belief is fire.

Belief is the word that turns men to monsters, to gods

Belief is the light that switches on and turns all else to darkness

Belief is the very glitch in humanity. That curse which the apple carried

The promise of strife and war and hunger.

Believe.

 

For a man cannot believe in nothing

The man who refuses to believe believes belief is not worthy of his belief

But believes in the inverse of belief. And so perpetuates belief:

Which shapes our lives, which guides our tongues

Which shows us how to live our lives, what is important, and what we should strive for

It tells us what is good, is bad and what we should not even try to understand.

Only, Believe.

 

Believe. Have no fear. Have no hope. Have no remorse. Have no pain.

Kill, steal, thrive, have joy, pain, bliss, and ecstasy.

Believe in your loved ones

Believe in your God.

Believe in your present reality, or close your eyes to it, and believe it does not exist.

Believe in the stories, the future, believe in the stars.

Believe what you will.

For the light that you see must have a source

Do the sounds that you hear have no voice?

Make your sense of the world around you.

Keep sane, and then you die.

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The Future of the News Business: A Monumental Twitter Stream All in One Place

Marc Andreessen

I am more bullish about the future of the news industry over the next 20 years than almost anyone I know. You are going to see it grow 10X to 100X from where it is today. That is my starting point for any discussion about the future of journalism. Here’s why I believe it, and how we will get there.

Journalism has changed

There has been a fascinating change in the traditional journalistic press over the last several years. Take corrections as an example. It used to be that corrections to printed news stories were a really big deal. There was a high bar to get a correction accepted in a newspaper or magazine. The story as printed was the permanent record.

That was then.

Now, even top print newspapers and magazines frequently revise stories online, sometimes dozens of times, often without tracking changes or acknowledging a change has been…

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Why Rocket Internet is Good for Emerging Markets

Tropical Considerations

I’ve written previously about my distaste for Rocket Internet here. I don’t believe in their philosophy towards entrepreneurship, and I think they represent what I’ve called “the corporatization of entrepreneurship.” Furthermore, I would caution those considering joining the company to carefully evaluate Rocket’s historical treatment of founders and employees before accepting an offer. My sources indicate that it can be a very unpleasant place to work, and while the learning experience may be valuable, there are plenty of other options out there for those looking to build an entrepreneurial skillset.

Nonetheless, I recognize that opinions based on personal values (such as those I enumerate above) can differ dramatically from conclusions drawn from dispassionate analysis (such as those I elaborate below).

Recently, I conducted an investigation into how the practice of business model replication (i.e. cloning)  impacts emerging markets. The idea was to avoid moral, ethical, or pride-based judgements, and evaluate…

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Buy Sheep, Sell Deer, Make Profit.

proudlyekiti

For this post, let us assume you own Iya Eba, the popular food joint in Lagos Island. You love your customers, and to satisfy them, you devised a wonderful promotion called Amala and Coke. Here’s how it works: Coke is normally sold for N35 at your canteen, but you think customers should enjoy a discount. So you announce to all your customers that Coke (I mean Coca-Cola, not the other one NDLEA can lock you up for selling) now sells for N10 per bottle. How do you pay for this? You tell your shop manager to take money from the daily sales to buy 100 bottles of Coke (the number of bottles your customers normally drink). At the end of each day, you do some Arithmetic.

You ask: “Mary, how much did we make today?” She responds: “Madam, we sold 100 plates of Amala at N100 each, so we…

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